I've mentioned sometime before that i will accept assistance even when i don't need it sometimes. I figure if someone offers to help me, i'll take it. There are times however, when i actually could do with a hand and will ask for it - ain't no shame in my game (anymore) at those times. It's those times when that left leg gets so stiff that i just can't bend it (it's amazing, but it happens) or if i feel really weak and just can't move it on my own. Oftentimes it will happen when i'm getting into or out of a car. Getting in, I would plant my ass on the seat and then cannot swing my legs in - the other day, i discovered a way to "tuck and roll" into the car in those times - not very ladylike and only to be used when absolutely necessary.
So 1 day, we were going somewhere and K was driving. She drives an Explorer - that thank goodness, unlike big black (J's Tundra) has a step ladder so getting in is a breeze. Well that day, no matter how hard i tried i couldn't get in the car. i could step up on the ladder, but not get in - try as i might, it jes wasn't working- it was a while ago, i really don't remember what was happening. I asked her for help so she did but it made no difference, i still couldn't get in. A few seconds later, G come downstairs and seeing what was going on said, "K! what u are doing is not going to do anything. U have to take that leg and manhandle it, use some elbow grease and strength and force it to do what you need it to do." In 2 2s we were on our way...last week, a friend was visiting and again, i needed some help - same thing essentially happened.
G is used to me and my "issues". Others are aware of my situation but are not always involved with the kind of help i might need. It's always funny to us when we have to school people on the way to (man)handle me if necessary. The good news is that i have no pain so using force is not going to break or hurt me and i don't get embarrassed by what needs to be done, so we just get it done and be on our way.
No time to waste round here!
So 1 day, we were going somewhere and K was driving. She drives an Explorer - that thank goodness, unlike big black (J's Tundra) has a step ladder so getting in is a breeze. Well that day, no matter how hard i tried i couldn't get in the car. i could step up on the ladder, but not get in - try as i might, it jes wasn't working- it was a while ago, i really don't remember what was happening. I asked her for help so she did but it made no difference, i still couldn't get in. A few seconds later, G come downstairs and seeing what was going on said, "K! what u are doing is not going to do anything. U have to take that leg and manhandle it, use some elbow grease and strength and force it to do what you need it to do." In 2 2s we were on our way...last week, a friend was visiting and again, i needed some help - same thing essentially happened.
G is used to me and my "issues". Others are aware of my situation but are not always involved with the kind of help i might need. It's always funny to us when we have to school people on the way to (man)handle me if necessary. The good news is that i have no pain so using force is not going to break or hurt me and i don't get embarrassed by what needs to be done, so we just get it done and be on our way.No time to waste round here!
The stiffness always amazes me. And yes sometimes I need the tough treatment too. The only person that really does it on cue is hubby. I wonder if that is a little passive aggression on his part!
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alas, sadly, big black is no more..............
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